Finding true friendship

We all need friends in life. Friends are those who accept you for whatever you are, they are the ones with whom you share your happiness and your sorrows. True friends are hardly seen in this world. But whenever you get them never lose them.
I have a Chaddi buddy friend; well not actual chaddi buddy friend but a friend who actually looked me when I was miserable.

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This is about how actually I met her and how we had our friendship.
She lives in my neighborhood and I knew her as my senior. Yes we studied in same school but in different standard.
Firstly living in same colony doesn’t mean you identify every kid and I was such a rough minded kid that I never approach any one by myself. She approached me and I just said okay to it.

Days passed and we became close, our relation became so complementary. It was like “ek ke sath dursra free”. Nobody could separate us.
She was more talented than me, she could dance, and she could sing and even paint and draw. I always try to copy her and wanted to be like her. This is where I lack behind.

When you had a beauty some people always try to spoil it. Same thing happened with our friendship.
We were growing teens and obviously we had some crushes. Such secrets that we share with our best friend. Mine was cute boy who also lived in our neighborhood and was one of the common friends. I shared every feelings I had for him with my best friend. She was so loyal to me that she always keeps my secrets.
One day I decided to tell my crush about my feelings for him and I asked my friend that will she help me and she said “yes”. I never asked her about her feelings or the way she thought about boys.

When I said about my feelings to my crush my friend was with me like my backbone. But ever thing got destroyed with his “no”. He said he didn’t feel the same for me and actually had feelings for my best friend.

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Now like every normal girl I was jealous and shattered by it. I didn’t take it well. My friend became my competitor. I just wanted to prove myself better from her . And thus I broke all the melody between us.

There’s a lot more …I need add to it ,but I will continue later…..till than wait for my next post.
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PS: – It was my big mistake at that time and there is lot more bitterness that I actually had and still hiding.But I miss that friendship we had.I wanted every thing like before, but sometimes things can’t be change.

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Trust key in friendship.

“How could you be stupid to tell her our group plan?”

“No yaar! Trust me. I haven’t told her anything important of our plan.”

“No we couldn’t trust you anymore.”

“What! You think I have betrayed all of you.”

These questions run all the time in my mind. They don’t trust me any longer.

YES! Trust is the key of every relation you share……well! Love is another element, but trust is something which is needed between everything.

I was in class 7th, when l learned what trust is and what betrayal can do to your life. It was interclass chart making competition, a competition organized every year by school. But this year competition pattern was different. This year it was a group completion where different group will be competing against each other.

I thought that I and my friends will be in one group but teachers played their masterful game. We were selected randomly and were put in different groups. No friends are in one group.

The concept of teachers behind this arrangement was that we will be able to work as team and no one be leftover. It was bullshit for me. When we don’t know each other properly how will we work together?  But you know teachers are always teacher they wanted to do some new management experiment with us. Obviously we have do work for marks and grades in school. Everyone was eager and excited.  Questions were asked like how? Where and when?

The rules were given:- 1) Every person in group will do some task. 2) Stationary will be arranged by students. 3) Only one team will be winner.

The competition day declared and preparation was being done by every team in free periods. I my team there was – Ayushi, Neha, Varsha, Poorva and me. Everyone put their ideas and skill in project, there was lot of work which I was doing like drawing chart and arranging colors. This completion have transform class environment into some battlefield. Everyone was getting ready for war.  Especially it change friendship!

I was friend with Prati; we were good buddies who share everything about school gossips. That time when it was war in class I thought we are still friends who share gossips.  I was fool to think so!

Prati was my friend.
Prati was my friend.

Prati was secretly making conspiracy of which I was not aware . I was friendly with her as usual and like a fool I braged about my role as drawing artist and material being used. But I never mentioned anything about plans and things we are going do draw. There was only general talk about everything. I thought she is being casual with me as usual but I was not aware how sheepishly she was making me a duffer.

Next day when everyone in my team was working, including me. Prati with her team leader came to my team face to face.

The scene was of like in movies where two opposite parties confronting each other. I thought maybe they were there just distracting us from competition, but no! They were there to mock me actually. There team leader Gunjan said- “Ayushi, I didn’t knew that you were so stupid to give so much responsibility to such a member of your team who talk big about your plan with my team member.”

Ayushi-“I don’t know what are you talking about and none of my team member is such swank.”

Gunjan –“Actually I am talking about Anema. We all knew she is good at drawing but we didn’t know that she is so efficient that you gave her all things to do. We are glad we have some very alert members like Prati who always keep their ears open and are loyal towards their team.”

When everyone hear what Gunjan said about me.They started looking me with dagger eyes. I knew I have committed mistake by trusting Prati whom I believed as loyal friend of mine.  I put forward my side of truth but they didn’t believe me.  That day I was unofficially dump out of team .But I was still in because they don’t have right of putting me out of team without class teacher permission as I was selected by class teacher.

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Everyone was seeing me with dagger eyes.

At that time I really wanted to thrash Prati on face, because she broke my trust as friend for just a silly competition. Winning is not always one should think of. On the day of competition ever y team gave their best except mine, because I was there ……but still not there in it.  They ignored me as if I am not present in team. I tried to help them but they just call me dishonest. When the team loss,they blamed me….  I said- “Yap! I did. Karo ab jo karna hai.” One thing happened well that neither Prati’s team was winner of competition. She did all this just to win competition but that day she loosed two things – Competition and my trust.

This incident taught me two lessons of life- 1) Never trust your friend who is also your competitor because they are jealous. 2) Working in team needs trust and understanding.

Ps: – This story is inspired by small incident of my life.It’s not fully true …..Specially the name’s and character in the story.

Summer holidays:-The water line and neighborhood families

My colony
My colony

Everyone have some summer memories of their own,mine are many. One such is when we shifted to our own family house during summer. My family was one of the few them who shifted in newly build colony at Khajuri kalan. Like  every new build locality we also faced many problems. One such problem was proper water supply.

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Water line

During that time as the colony was newly build there was no proper water supply because water connection was not taken from municipality. We have to stand in line with buckets to fetch water from municipality water pumps till we got proper water connection. At that time while standing in line we met our neighborhood families who were also there to fetch water for drinking and bathing purpose. We  became quick friends and get know about each other. We enjoyed that two hours of standing in line by playing Antacharadi ie. Singing movie songs .Some times we even share our problems and happiness. We talk and gossips about each other things. Those days were best days when we even being new to place we got use to eachother like we are friends from longtime.

But after years things have changed a lot.Yesterday when due to water connection fault we didn’t got water. We once again were standing in line to get water from municipalities water pump. Again we met our neighborhood families who were doing same, but this time we were neither talking or enjoying ourselves. Instead there were quarrels and shouts for water, no friendliness  as if we our enemies who met after long time to kill eachother. I felt much like a stranger now ,when we had already lived ten years in this colony rather than when we had  newly shifted in this colony.

PS:- The truth is always Sour, adjustments are made. After living so many year in the city where population more than 3 lakh , I have known that everyone gets so much busy in life that we all are strangers to each other. I even don’t know who lives next door and what are their names.